Every time we mention that we are foster parents the common response is “I could never do that, I’d get too attached. How can you possibly say good-bye?”
It’s very hard to respond to that statement – and you’d think that after years of hearing it I would have an answer, but truthfully I don’t.
Yes, it’s HARD.
It’s HARD to open your home and your heart to a child who may never be legally yours.
It’s HARD to explain to family members why they can’t tell identifying details about your foster child.
It’s HARD to fight for a child who is not yours, who may never be yours and who could be moved at a moment’s notice.
It’s HARD to trust the justice system with a child who you come to love, when in fact you have no control over those decisions.
It’s HARD to deal with birth parents and birth families.
It’s HARD deal with negative comments from people.
It’s HARD to listen to social workers and law guardians and CASA and GAL workers who may or may not listen to you.
It’s HARD to constantly have people in and out of your life.
It’s HARD to fight for good medical coverage, Early Intervention or therapies that would be a no-brainer if it was your biological child….but because it’s your foster child you have little rights in their medical care.
It’s HARD to put your life on hold or jump through hoops over and over again.
And yes, it’s HARD to kiss a child and watch them drive away not knowing what is going to happen to them. We pray and hope for the best – but to be honest we may never know how the child’s life is lived.
However, I know that we are making a difference one child at a time. We are making a difference with each person that we talk to. We are making a difference with each birth parent we work with.
Being a foster parent is honestly the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, but I am positive that we are following the path that God has laid before us in this season of our life.
So – what’s your super power?